Mail order brides?

When talking about the phenomenon of Russian mail order brides, we should discuss several topics. First of all, why Russian women search for foreign husbands. Secondly, why foreign men have become so fond of Russian woman, and ready to spend thousands of dollars to meet a girl from Russian and bring their Russian wife home. But for the beginning let's answer the question whether Russian women should be called mail order brides.

A mail order bride is a label applied to a woman who lists herself in a catalog or marriage agency with an intent to marry a foreign man. Although the label mail order bride is widely used, it has derogatory connotations and may be offensive. Mail-order brides hail from many of developing countries and a few from developed ones. Ukraine, Russia, Colombia and the Philippines have particularly large numbers of mail-order brides.

So, are Russian women mail order brides? Yes and no, this is why: though mail-order bride is a term applied to a woman who lists her profile in a marriage agency catalog aiming at marrying a foreign man (which is true about Russian women), the term also implies that the woman expects an improvement in her quality of life by marrying a foreign man and relocating to a country with more favorable economic and/or societal conditions. Improvement in the quality of life is not the key factor for Russian and Ukrainian brides whom you can find in our Russian women photo catalog. You would read in many profiles that the women from Ukraine and Russia are searching for reliable partner, serious, understanding, gentle and loving; very few list financial security of their future husband as one of the top priorities. And a foreign husband should not expect his wife from Russia to be so thankful to him for taking her out of Russia, that she would become his slave and will do everything he wants. No. Russian women are educated women and with great pride and self-respect. When marrying a Russian bride, a foreign man should realize that he takes for a wife an equal partner, who, however, has traditional views on family and has home and family as the first priority.

Why Russian women search for foreign men?

Let us not talk about natural beauty of the Russian women - you can see that Russian brides are beautiful in their pictures in the catalog, and it is natural that any man would be proud to have one of these beauties as his wife. Let us dwell on Russian women qualities which attract foreign men to our women. The main to be mentioned here are: Russian women are family-oriented, they are good wives and mothers; they are educated, well-mannered, interesting personalities.

The first priority in life for a Russian woman is family, and family-oriented Russian women attracted foreign men with their traditional views on family life. Girls from Ukraine and Russia are traditionally taught an idea that family is very important, man is the head of the family, and woman is a mistress of the house; husband is the protector of the family - he is like a stone wall who protects the woman and children from all dangers in life; husband is the provider of the family - he takes care about his family well-being, earning money to provide good life for his wife and children is man's main role in the family; and a wife is a keeper of the family hearth, she should do her best to make her husband feel secure and relaxed at home: clean the house, cook tasty, comfort her man after hard working day. Modern life makes corrections to this behavior model of the Russian woman: it is often necessary for both a husband and a wife to work and earn money to have a comfortable life, that is why a woman receives good education and finds a good job. But as soon as her husband is able to provide the family alone, she would quit and stay at home, "to secure the rear". But though a Russian woman will let her husband rule in the family, she retains her pride, dignity and self-respect. If she experiences abuse from her husband's side, she will leave him no matter how hard her life alone would be. She will take children with her, and that is why it is common to find divorced Russian women of 25-35 with children, and it is very often that fathers do not see their children and the only support they provide is the alimony directed to be paid by the court. Disillusionment in Russian men made Russian women search for husbands abroad, and Internet is of great help here.

You will also find a lot of young girls, never married and without children, they also say they want a foreign husband. If it is understandable why mature Russian women disillusioned in our men, search for a husband abroad, why young girls post their profiles in the Internet? They say they want a husband, but you should understand that it is often that young girls can not define exactly what they want from life and from men. Even though due to the hardships of life Russian women get mature earlier than women in the West, a girl of 18-20 still lives in dreams, she has not known many men, and searches for someone perfect who can't exist in reality. Such dreamy girl would turn to the agency after several unfortunate romances with Russian guys, searching for a perfect man abroad. And if she finds one close to her ideal, she will be happy herself and make happy her chosen man. For some young girls it is like a big adventure - correspond with men from different countries, learn about new places and traditions, meet with interesting people. Their main aim now is to communicate, but isn't communication a key to serious relations, friendship and love? Besides, young age is also a great plus: the young girls will get adapted to the life in a foreign country quicker that a mature woman whose life views were formed in Russia.

So, Russian women are good wives - they respect their husbands but remain proud women, do not lose their personality and individuality in obedience to the man. Russian women are beautiful with the natural beauty liked by all men of the world regardless of man's cultural education and nationality. A woman from Russia is a good hostess and mother because family is on the first place for her. She loves her husband for his inner qualities, not his appearance, and when love is gone respect and friendship remain; she would support her husband in all he does, until he treats her with respect and dignity, remains faithful to her. Russian women search for foreign husbands because they are disillusioned in our men, and want to find a loving and caring partner wherever he lives.